無條件的愛 (Unconditional Love)
70. Unconditional Love
原則 (Principle)
Principle
如果有人愛上你，這本身就是一個奇蹟。即便那份情感未能彼此呼應，也請不要冷落對方。要以極高的敬意並且溫柔地對待那份付出的愛。仔細想想，被愛其實也是一種奇蹟。假設這可能是唯一一個曾經愛上你的人，請同樣珍惜那份來自他人的愛；切記不要讓它演變成依賴性關係 (Dependent relationships) 的束縛。無條件地付出愛、無條件的愛——不附帶任何要求，這正是能激發彼此相愛之情的唯一途徑。放下對索取或掌控的慾望，單純為愛而愛，毫無期待地去愛，也許奇蹟就會降臨，你將獲得回報性的愛。（Note: 本段強調珍惜愛情並保持其純粹性）
If someone has fallen in love with you, consider it a miracle. Even if the feeling is not mutual, don’t cold-shoulder it. Treat the love shown to you with high regard and treat it very gently. If you think about it, being loved is a miracle. What if this is the last person who will ever fall in love with you? Treasure your love for another in the same way. Don’t let it turn into a dependent relationship. Offering unconditional love, love without demands, is the only way of evoking similar feelings in another. Let go of the desire to receive or commandeer. Give your love just for the sake of it, without expecting anything in return and then perhaps a miracle will happen and you will be loved in return.
詮釋
Interpretation
試想你站在世界的鏡子面前。如果你的形象充滿了愛，那麼反射出的也是愛。如果你希望在鏡中看到彼此相愛的景象，那就別期望鏡子能自動呈現那份互愛，因為它只會反映出你徒勞無功、試圖成為別人最愛的形象。當愛變成一種依賴性關係 (Dependent relationships) 時，便會產生過剩潛能 (Exceed potential)，導致一種能量上的「壓力下降」。這種依賴性關係 (Dependent relationships) 往往是在設下如下條件時產生：如果你不願與我結婚，那顯然表示你不愛我；若你愛我，那你就很好；反之若你不愛我，你就是壞的。對擁有的渴望越強烈，也就是越渴望得到回報，平衡力量 (Balanced forces) 的作用就越強大，會不惜一切反過來對你作出報復。只有不受任何條件所綁定的愛，才能擺脫佔有慾，避免依賴性關係 (Dependent relationships)，從而產生創造性、正面的能量。唯有無條件的愛，才能創造出彼此相愛的奇蹟。（Note: 本段探討愛情中條件與依賴帶來的負面效應）
Imagine yourself standing in front of the mirror of the world. If your image is one of love, then the reflection will be the same. If your image contains the desire for mutual affection, you can forget about seeing mutual love in the reflection. The mirror will simply reflect your vain attempts to be somebody else’s favourite. When love turns into a dependent relationship, excess potential is created which brings about a kind of energetic ‘pressure drop’. Dependent relationships are created by setting conditions along the lines of, «If you don’t want to marry me you obviously do not love me. If you love me, you are good. If you don’t love me you are bad.» The greater the desire to possess, i.e. to be loved back, the greater the effect of balancing forces which will do anything to spite you. Love, not tied to conditions, is free from possession, avoids dependent relationships and generates creative, positive energy. Only unconditional love is capable of working the miracle of mutual love.
- 無條件的愛
70. Unconditional Love
原則
Principle
如果有人愛上了你，視之為一個奇蹟。即使感覺不是相互的，也不要冷漠對待。以高度的尊重對待向你表達的愛，並非常溫柔地對待它。如果你仔細想想，被愛是一個奇蹟。如果這是最後一個會愛上你的人呢？同樣珍惜你對他人的愛。不要讓它變成依賴關係。提供無條件的愛，沒有要求的愛，是激發他人類似感受的唯一方法。放下想要得到或掌控的慾望。單純為了愛而給予你的愛，不期待任何回報，然後也許奇蹟會發生，你會被愛回。
If someone has fallen in love with you, consider it a miracle. Even if the feeling is not mutual, don’t cold-shoulder it. Treat the love shown to you with high regard and treat it very gently. If you think about it, being loved is a miracle. What if this is the last person who will ever fall in love with you? Treasure your love for another in the same way. Don’t let it turn into a dependent relationship. Offering unconditional love, love without demands, is the only way of evoking similar feelings in another. Let go of the desire to receive or commandeer. Give your love just for the sake of it, without expecting anything in return and then perhaps a miracle will happen and you will be loved in return.
解釋
Interpretation
想像你站在世界的鏡子前。如果你的形象是愛，那麼反射也會是愛。如果你的形象中包含對相互愛慕的渴望，你就別想在反射中看到相互的愛。鏡子只會反映你徒勞地想成為別人寵兒的嘗試。當愛變成依賴關係時，會產生過剩潛力，帶來一種能量的「壓力下降」。依賴關係是通過設置條件創造的，例如：「如果你不想嫁給我，你顯然不愛我。如果你愛我，你就是好的。如果你不愛我，你就是壞的。」擁有的慾望越強，即被愛回的慾望，平衡力量的效果就越大，會不惜一切地讓你失望。沒有條件的愛不受擁有的束縛，避免依賴關係，並產生創造性的積極能量。只有無條件的愛才能實現相互愛的奇蹟。
Imagine yourself standing in front of the mirror of the world. If your image is one of love, then the reflection will be the same. If your image contains the desire for mutual affection, you can forget about seeing mutual love in the reflection. The mirror will simply reflect your vain attempts to be somebody else’s favourite. When love turns into a dependent relationship, excess potential is created which brings about a kind of energetic ‘pressure drop’. Dependent relationships are created by setting conditions along the lines of, «If you don’t want to marry me you obviously do not love me. If you love me, you are good. If you don’t love me you are bad.» The greater the desire to possess, i.e. to be loved back, the greater the effect of balancing forces which will do anything to spite you. Love, not tied to conditions, is free from possession, avoids dependent relationships and generates creative, positive energy. Only unconditional love is capable of working the miracle of mutual love.
- 無條件愛 (Unconditional Love)
70. Unconditional Love
原則
Principle
若有人愛上你，視為奇蹟。即使無互愛，勿冷漠對待。以高度尊重對待愛，溫柔相待。想想，被愛是奇蹟。若這是最後愛你的人？同樣珍視你對他人的愛。勿讓它成依賴關係 (Dependent Relationship)。無條件愛，無要求的愛，是引發他人類似感覺的唯一方式。放開接收或佔有慾。僅為愛而給予愛，無回報期望，或許奇蹟發生，你會被愛回。
If someone has fallen in love with you, consider it a miracle. Even if the feeling is not mutual, don’t cold-shoulder it. Treat the love shown to you with high regard and treat it very gently. If you think about it, being loved is a miracle. What if this is the last person who will ever fall in love with you? Treasure your love for another in the same way. Don’t let it turn into a dependent relationship. Offering unconditional love, love without demands, is the only way of evoking similar feelings in another. Let go of the desire to receive or commandeer. Give your love just for the sake of it, without expecting anything in return and then perhaps a miracle will happen and you will be loved in return.
解釋
Interpretation
想像站在世界之鏡前。若你的形象是愛，反射會同。若形象含互愛渴望，你可忘了在反射中見互愛。鏡子僅反映你徒勞試做他人寵兒。當愛轉為依賴關係，創造過剩潛能，產生能量“壓力降”。依賴關係由設條件創造，如“若你不願娶我，你顯然不愛我。若你愛我，你好；若不，你壞。”越渴望擁有，即被愛回，平衡力量效應越大，會盡力與你作對。無條件的愛免於占有，避免依賴關係，產生創造性正面能量。僅無條件愛能實現互愛的奇蹟。
Imagine yourself standing in front of the mirror of the world. If your image is one of love, then the reflection will be the same. If your image contains the desire for mutual affection, you can forget about seeing mutual love in the reflection. The mirror will simply reflect your vain attempts to be somebody else’s favourite. When love turns into a dependent relationship, excess potential is created which brings about a kind of energetic ‘pressure drop’. Dependent relationships are created by setting conditions along the lines of, «If you don’t want to marry me you obviously do not love me. If you love me, you are good. If you don’t love me you are bad.» The greater the desire to possess, i.e. to be loved back, the greater the effect of balancing forces which will do anything to spite you. Love, not tied to conditions, is free from possession, avoids dependent relationships and generates creative, positive energy. Only unconditional love is capable of working the miracle of mutual love.