順流而行 (Against the Flow)
39. Against the Flow
原則 (Principle)
Principle
試著觀察一天，注意你心中如何逆流而行：有人給你東西時，你拒絕；有人試圖向你訴說，你卻置若罔聞；有人發表意見時，你與之爭辯；有人按自己的方式行事，而你卻試圖把他導回你認為正確的路；有人提出解決方案，你卻提出反對；期望得到某樣東西，卻最終換來另一種結果，隨後你表達不滿；遇見阻礙時你大發雷霆；當情況與你的劇本不符時，你甚至直接發起攻擊以期將局勢拉回正軌。改變策略，將重心從想要掌控一切轉移到觀察。沒必要在水中胡亂掙扎，順流而行，讓障礙從生活中移除，你便會發現一切竟然變得如此輕鬆。（Note: 此段強調改變控制慾望，學習順流而行的重要性）
Try to observe, at least for one day, how your mind paddles against the current. Someone offers you something and you turn it down. People try to tell you something but you dismiss it. Someone expresses their opinion and you argue with them. Someone is trying to do something in their own way but you direct them onto the true path. Someone offers you a solution but you object. You expect one thing but you get another and then express your discontent. Someone gets in your way and you are enraged. Something runs counter to your script and you launch a direct attack to get the flow back on track. Change your tactic. Shift the centre of gravity from control to observation. There is no point in thrashing your hands about in the water. Get out of your life’s way. Let it go with the flow and you will be relieved to see just how much easier everything is.
詮釋
Interpretation
人的心智猶如一台計算機，試圖算出所有未來動作，並制定一套行動計畫。但由於未知數繁多，加上情況不斷變化，心智難以找到最優方案，卻仍固執己見，選擇逆流而上。結果便是浪費大量能量，同時帶來更多挑戰與障礙。心智試圖控制流動，而非順著流動而行，這正是人們面臨困境的主要原因之一。與其費力控制，不如多加觀察；別急著否定、反對、爭辯、堅持、干預或批評，給情勢一個自我調整的空間。放下必須掌控一切的念頭，你反而會比以往更能掌握局面。唯一值得你控制的是你內在與外在的重要性 (Importance) 的程度。
The human mind works like a computer. It tries to calculate all its future moves and draw up a plan of action. The mind rarely manages to find the optimal approach to a situation, since the task involves too many unknowns, in addition to which, the situation is constantly changing as you go along. Yet still, it stubbornly insists on its own script, in other words, rows against the current. As a result, a huge amount of energy is wasted and the number of challenges and obstacles increases. The mind tries to control the flow itself, rather than how it moves with the flow. This is one of the main causes of the problems and issues people find themselves having to deal with. Rather than trying to be in control, try to observe more. Don’t be too quick to dismiss, object, argue, insist, intervene, manage and criticize. Give the situation a chance to resolve itself before you actively intervene or resist. Let go of having to be in control and you will end up having more control over a situation than you had before. The only things worth controlling are your levels of inner and outer importance.
- 逆流而行
39. Against the Flow
原則
Principle
嘗試觀察至少一天，你的心靈如何逆流而行。有人給你提供某些東西，你卻拒絕了。人們試圖告訴你一些事情，但你不予理會。有人表達他們的意見，你卻與他們爭論。有人試圖以自己的方式做某事，但你引導他們走上正確的道路。有人給你提供解決方案，但你反對。你期待一件事卻得到另一件，然後表達不滿。有人擋住你的路，你感到憤怒。某事與你的劇本相悖，你發起直接攻擊以使流程回到正軌。改變你的策略。將重心從控制轉移到觀察。沒有必要在水中亂揮手。讓開你的生活之路。隨著流動前進，你會驚訝地發現一切變得多麼簡單。
Try to observe, at least for one day, how your mind paddles against the current. Someone offers you something and you turn it down. People try to tell you something but you dismiss it. Someone expresses their opinion and you argue with them. Someone is trying to do something in their own way but you direct them onto the true path. Someone offers you a solution but you object. You expect one thing but you get another and then express your discontent. Someone gets in your way and you are enraged. Something runs counter to your script and you launch a direct attack to get the flow back on track. Change your tactic. Shift the centre of gravity from control to observation. There is no point in thrashing your hands about in the water. Get out of your life’s way. Let it go with the flow and you will be relieved to see just how much easier everything is.
解釋
Interpretation
人類的心靈就像一台電腦。它試圖計算所有未來的動作並制定行動計劃。心靈很少能找到解決情況的最佳方法，因為任務涉及太多未知數，此外，隨著你的前進，情況不斷變化。然而，它仍然固執地堅持自己的劇本，換句話說，逆流而行。結果，大量的能量被浪費，挑戰和障礙的數量增加。心靈試圖控制流動本身，而不是如何隨流動而動。這是人們發現自己必須處理的問題和問題的主要原因之一。與其試圖控制，不如多觀察。不要急於否定、反對、爭論、堅持、干預、管理和批評。在你積極干預或抵抗之前，給情況一個自行解決的機會。放下必須控制的想法，你會發現自己對情況的控制比以前更多。唯一值得控制的是你內在和外在的重要性 (Importance) 水平。
The human mind works like a computer. It tries to calculate all its future moves and draw up a plan of action. The mind rarely manages to find the optimal approach to a situation, since the task involves too many unknowns, in addition to which, the situation is constantly changing as you go along. Yet still, it stubbornly insists on its own script, in other words, rows against the current. As a result, a huge amount of energy is wasted and the number of challenges and obstacles increases. The mind tries to control the flow itself, rather than how it moves with the flow. This is one of the main causes of the problems and issues people find themselves having to deal with. Rather than trying to be in control, try to observe more. Don’t be too quick to dismiss, object, argue, insist, intervene, manage and criticize. Give the situation a chance to resolve itself before you actively intervene or resist. Let go of having to be in control and you will end up having more control over a situation than you had before. The only things worth controlling are your levels of inner and outer importance.
- 逆流而行 (Against the Flow)
39. Against the Flow
原則
Principle
試至少一日觀察你的頭腦如何逆流划槳。有人給你東西，你拒絕。人們試告訴你什麼，你駁回。有人表達意見，你爭論。有人以自己的方式做事，你指引正確路。有人提解決方案，你反對。你期望一物，得到另一，然後表達不滿。有人擋你路，你憤怒。某事違你的劇本，你直接攻擊以讓流回正軌。改變策略。將重心從控制轉為觀察。在水裡亂拍手無意義。讓生活隨流，你會驚喜發現一切多簡單。
Try to observe, at least for one day, how your mind paddles against the current. Someone offers you something and you turn it down. People try to tell you something but you dismiss it. Someone expresses their opinion and you argue with them. Someone is trying to do something in their own way but you direct them onto the true path. Someone offers you a solution but you object. You expect one thing but you get another and then express your discontent. Someone gets in your way and you are enraged. Something runs counter to your script and you launch a direct attack to get the flow back on track. Change your tactic. Shift the centre of gravity from control to observation. There is no point in thrashing your hands about in the water. Get out of your life’s way. Let it go with the flow and you will be relieved to see just how much easier everything is.
解釋
Interpretation
人類頭腦如電腦運作，試計算未來行動，擬行動計劃。頭腦難找到最佳方法，因任務涉太多未知，且情況不斷變化。然而，它頑固堅持自己的劇本，換句話，逆流划槳。結果，大量能量浪費，挑戰與障礙增加。頭腦試控制流本身，而非如何隨流。這是人們面臨問題的主要原因之一。與其試控制，多觀察。勿急於駁回、反對、爭論、堅持、干預、管理、批評。在積極干預或抵抗前，給情況自行解決的機會。放開控制需求，你會比之前更有控制。唯一值得控制的是你的內外重要性水平。
The human mind works like a computer. It tries to calculate all its future moves and draw up a plan of action. The mind rarely manages to find the optimal approach to a situation, since the task involves too many unknowns, in addition to which, the situation is constantly changing as you go along. Yet still, it stubbornly insists on its own script, in other words, rows against the current. As a result, a huge amount of energy is wasted and the number of challenges and obstacles increases. The mind tries to control the flow itself, rather than how it moves with the flow. This is one of the main causes of the problems and issues people find themselves having to deal with. Rather than trying to be in control, try to observe more. Don’t be too quick to dismiss, object, argue, insist, intervene, manage and criticize. Give the situation a chance to resolve itself before you actively intervene or resist. Let go of having to be in control and you will end up having more control over a situation than you had before. The only things worth controlling are your levels of inner and outer importance.