Transurfing 規則
34. The Transurfing Rule
原則 (Principle)
Principle
拋棄鐘擺 (Pendulum) 的規則「依我所為」，改而採用 Transurfing 規則：「給自己許可做真正的自己，並允許他人亦然。」給自己許可做自己，意味著接受那完整真實的自己，即便有瑕疵；允許他人做自己，則意味著放下你對他們所抱有的各種期待。這一普世規則讓你有機會找到內在自由，並向那些曾經困擾你生活的各類問題揮手告別。（Note: 此段強調自我接納與放下對他人的期待以獲得真實自由）
Discard the pendulum’s rule, «Do as I do» and replace it with the Transurfing rule: «Give yourself permission to be yourself, and allow others to do the same». Giving yourself permission to be yourself means accepting yourself, warts and all. Allowing others to be themselves means withdrawing the expectations you project onto them. This universal rule gives you the chance to find inner freedom and wave goodbye to all sorts of problems that may have plagued your life.
詮釋
Interpretation
你不必過於擔心 Transurfing 規則如何運作，只需遵循它。每當面對困難境況時，詢問自己：「在不違反 Transurfing 規則的前提下，我該如何行動？」這將幫助你解決各種問題：找到內在力量（你的個人信條）、擺脫內疚與自卑情結、增強自信、避免一切衝突與失望、理清復雜的人際糾紛，並最終走出屬於自己的路。Transurfing 規則正是君王般的尊嚴所在。（Note: 此段強調 Transurfing 規則在破解生活困境中所展現的核心力量）
You do not have to worry too much about how the Transurfing rule works. Just follow the rule. Whenever you are faced with a difficult situation, ask yourself: «How can I act in this situation without breaking the Transurfing rule?» This will allow you to solve a whole range of issues: find your inner strength (your personal credo), get rid of the complexes of guilt and inferiority, feel confident, avoid all conflicts and disappointments, unravel intricate knots of the interpersonal conflict and, finally, find your own way in life. The Transurfing rule is the dignity of kings.
- Transurfing 法則
34. The Transurfing Rule
原則
Principle
丟棄鐘擺的規則「照我做的去做」，用 Transurfing 的規則取而代之：「給自己允許做自己，並允許他人也這樣做。」給自己允許做自己意味著接受自己，包括所有的缺點。允許他人做自己意味著撤回你對他們的期望。這一普遍規則給你提供了找到內在自由的機會，並告別可能困擾你生活的各種問題。
Discard the pendulum’s rule, «Do as I do» and replace it with the Transurfing rule: «Give yourself permission to be yourself, and allow others to do the same». Giving yourself permission to be yourself means accepting yourself, warts and all. Allowing others to be themselves means withdrawing the expectations you project onto them. This universal rule gives you the chance to find inner freedom and wave goodbye to all sorts of problems that may have plagued your life.
解釋
Interpretation
你不必過於擔心 Transurfing 規則如何運作。只需遵循這個規則。每當你面臨困難的情況時，問自己：「我如何在不違反 Transurfing 規則的情況下行動？」這將使你能夠解決一系列問題：找到你的內在力量（你的個人信念）、擺脫內疚和自卑的情結、感到自信、避免所有衝突和失望、解開錯綜複雜的人際衝突結，最終找到你自己的生活道路。Transurfing 規則是國王的尊嚴。
You do not have to worry too much about how the Transurfing rule works. Just follow the rule. Whenever you are faced with a difficult situation, ask yourself: «How can I act in this situation without breaking the Transurfing rule?» This will allow you to solve a whole range of issues: find your inner strength (your personal credo), get rid of the complexes of guilt and inferiority, feel confident, avoid all conflicts and disappointments, unravel intricate knots of the interpersonal conflict and, finally, find your own way in life. The Transurfing rule is the dignity of kings.
- Transurfing規則 (The Transurfing Rule)
34. The Transurfing Rule
原則
Principle
丟棄擺錘規則“照我做”，代以Transurfing規則：“允許自己做自己，允許他人做自己。”允許自己做自己意味接受自己，連同缺點。允許他人做自己意味撤回對他們的期望。這普遍規則給你找到內在自由 (Inner Freedom) 的機會，告別困擾生活的問題。
Discard the pendulum’s rule, «Do as I do» and replace it with the Transurfing rule: «Give yourself permission to be yourself, and allow others to do the same». Giving yourself permission to be yourself means accepting yourself, warts and all. Allowing others to be themselves means withdrawing the expectations you project onto them. This universal rule gives you the chance to find inner freedom and wave goodbye to all sorts of problems that may have plagued your life.
解釋
Interpretation
你無需過分擔心Transurfing規則如何運作。只需遵循。面對困難情況，問自己：“在此情況，我如何行動而不違Transurfing規則？”這讓你解決一系列問題：找到內在力量（個人信條）、擺脫內疚與自卑情結、感到自信、避免衝突與失望、解開人際衝突的複雜結、最終找到自己的路。Transurfing規則是王者的尊嚴。
You do not have to worry too much about how the Transurfing rule works. Just follow the rule. Whenever you are faced with a difficult situation, ask yourself: «How can I act in this situation without breaking the Transurfing rule?» This will allow you to solve a whole range of issues: find your inner strength (your personal credo), get rid of the complexes of guilt and inferiority, feel confident, avoid all conflicts and disappointments, unravel intricate knots of the interpersonal conflict and, finally, find your own way in life. The Transurfing rule is the dignity of kings.