內疚感
17. Feelings of Guilt
原則 (Principle)
Principle
內疚感常會在不知不覺中引發與懲罰相關的情景，這是傳統世界觀的典型表現——所有罪行皆必遭懲罰。一旦你察覺到哪怕一絲內疚，便要立即將這種負面情緒剔除，莫讓它玷污你的生活。堅守你自己的信念，這樣你就不會感受到內疚；如果你不認為自己有過錯，也無人敢評判你。當你解脫了內疚，就不會遭遇他人以暴力威脅的局面：無內疚，便無懲罰。（Note: 強調及時剔除內疚情緒以保護自己）
The sense of guilt always generates scenarios related to punishment, without you realizing it. This is typical of the usual worldview. Every crime is always punished. As soon as you notice the slightest trace of guilt, get rid of that rubbish immediately. Do not let it spoil your life. Live true to your own convictions and you will never experience guilt. No one will dare to judge you if you do not consider yourself guilty. When you are free of guilt, you will never find yourself in a situation in which someone tries to threaten you with violence. No guilt, no punishment.
詮釋
Interpretation
如果你正努力擺脫內疚情結，關鍵在於停止為自己辯解。這正是治標也治本的策略，你無需再說服自己不欠任何人什麼。只需觀察你的日常行為，這需要一定的覺察。如果你一向習慣為最小的錯誤道歉，試著改變這一習慣，只在必須時才解釋自己的行為；同時，停止感覺自己欠了他人什麼。即便那種負擔感依然存在，也不要外顯。一旦他人不再從你的本能反應中獲得滿足，操縱你的人就會漸漸退場。與此同時，你的心與智會逐漸適應這種新感受，當你不再試圖為自己辯解，一切自然井然有序，內疚感便無從存在。最終，透過反饋鏈，外在形式將慢慢梳理內在內容，內疚及其相關問題終將煙消雲散。（Note: 強調改變習慣與提高覺察對消解內疚的作用）
If you are struggling to shift a guilt complex, it is important to stop justifying yourself. This is one of those cases where treating the symptoms of the disease successfully deals with the cause. You do not have to convince yourself that you are not obligated to anyone. Simply observe your everyday actions. This requires a certain level of awareness. If previously you had the habit of apologizing for the slightest thing, adopt a different habit. Explain your actions only when it is absolutely necessary. Stop feeling as though you owe something to others. Even if the feeling of being obligated continues, do not show it outwardly. When they stop getting the former knee-jerk reaction, the manipulators will gradually back off. At the same time, the heart and the mind will gradually get used to the new sensation. If you are not trying to justify yourself, then things are obviously as they should be, and so your guilt simply cannot exist. As a result, the need for ‘redemption’ will appear less and less often. Therefore, via the feedback chain, the outer form will gradually tidy up the inner content. The feeling of guilt will disappear and with it, all its associated problems.
- 內疚感
17. Feelings of Guilt
原則
Principle
內疚感總是產生與懲罰相關的情景，而你卻沒有意識到。這是典型的常見世界觀。每一個罪行都會受到懲罰。一旦你注意到一絲內疚感，立即擺脫這些垃圾。不要讓它破壞你的生活。忠於自己的信念生活，你將永遠不會感到內疚。如果你不認為自己有罪，沒有人敢評判你。當你擺脫內疚時，你永遠不會發現自己處於有人試圖用暴力威脅你的情況。沒有內疚，就沒有懲罰。
The sense of guilt always generates scenarios related to punishment, without you realizing it. This is typical of the usual worldview. Every crime is always punished. As soon as you notice the slightest trace of guilt, get rid of that rubbish immediately. Do not let it spoil your life. Live true to your own convictions and you will never experience guilt. No one will dare to judge you if you do not consider yourself guilty. When you are free of guilt, you will never find yourself in a situation in which someone tries to threaten you with violence. No guilt, no punishment.
解釋
Interpretation
如果你正在努力擺脫內疚情結，重要的是要停止為自己辯解。在這種情況下，成功治療疾病的症狀可以解決其原因。你不必說服自己你不欠任何人。只需觀察你的日常行為。這需要一定程度的意識。如果你以前習慣於為一點小事道歉，養成不同的習慣。只有在絕對必要時才解釋你的行為。停止感覺自己欠別人什麼。即使感覺被迫，外在也不要表現出來。當他們不再得到以前的膝反射反應時，操縱者會逐漸退縮。與此同時，心靈和思想會逐漸習慣於新的感覺。如果你不試圖為自己辯解，那麼事情顯然是應該的，因此你的內疚感根本不存在。結果，“救贖”的需求會越來越少。因此，通過反饋鏈，外在形式會逐漸整理內在內容。內疚感會消失，隨之而來的所有相關問題也會消失。
If you are struggling to shift a guilt complex, it is important to stop justifying yourself. This is one of those cases where treating the symptoms of the disease successfully deals with the cause. You do not have to convince yourself that you are not obligated to anyone. Simply observe your everyday actions. This requires a certain level of awareness. If previously you had the habit of apologizing for the slightest thing, adopt a different habit. Explain your actions only when it is absolutely necessary. Stop feeling as though you owe something to others. Even if the feeling of being obligated continues, do not show it outwardly. When they stop getting the former knee-jerk reaction, the manipulators will gradually back off. At the same time, the heart and the mind will gradually get used to the new sensation. If you are not trying to justify yourself, then things are obviously as they should be, and so your guilt simply cannot exist. As a result, the need for ‘redemption’ will appear less and less often. Therefore, via the feedback chain, the outer form will gradually tidy up the inner content. The feeling of guilt will disappear and with it, all its associated problems.
- 內疚感 (Feelings of Guilt)
17. Feelings of Guilt
原則
Principle
內疚感總在你未意識下產生與懲罰相關的劇本。這是常見世界觀的典型。每罪必罰。一旦你察覺絲毫內疚，立即丟棄這垃圾。勿讓它毀你生活。依自己的信念生活，你永不內疚。若你不認為自己有罪，無人敢評判你。無內疚，你永不面臨暴力威脅情境。無內疚，無懲罰。
The sense of guilt always generates scenarios related to punishment, without you realizing it. This is typical of the usual worldview. Every crime is always punished. As soon as you notice the slightest trace of guilt, get rid of that rubbish immediately. Do not let it spoil your life. Live true to your own convictions and you will never experience guilt. No one will dare to judge you if you do not consider yourself guilty. When you are free of guilt, you will never find yourself in a situation in which someone tries to threaten you with violence. No guilt, no punishment.
解釋
Interpretation
若你難以擺脫內疚情結，重要的是停止為自己辯解。這是治療疾病症狀成功處理原因的案例。你無需說服自己不欠任何人。只需觀察日常行動。這需要一定意識水平 (Level of Awareness)。若你之前習慣為小事道歉，採新習慣。僅在絕對必要時解釋行動。停止感覺欠他人。即使內疚感持續，勿外露。當操縱者停止得到舊有膝跳反應，會逐漸退去。同時，心與頭腦逐漸適應新感覺。若你不試圖辯解，事情顯然如應有，內疚無法存在。結果，“贖罪”需求越來越少。因此，通過反饋鏈，外部形式逐漸整理內部內容。內疚感消失，相關問題隨之消散。
If you are struggling to shift a guilt complex, it is important to stop justifying yourself. This is one of those cases where treating the symptoms of the disease successfully deals with the cause. You do not have to convince yourself that you are not obligated to anyone. Simply observe your everyday actions. This requires a certain level of awareness. If previously you had the habit of apologizing for the slightest thing, adopt a different habit. Explain your actions only when it is absolutely necessary. Stop feeling as though you owe something to others. Even if the feeling of being obligated continues, do not show it outwardly. When they stop getting the former knee-jerk reaction, the manipulators will gradually back off. At the same time, the heart and the mind will gradually get used to the new sensation. If you are not trying to justify yourself, then things are obviously as they should be, and so your guilt simply cannot exist. As a result, the need for ‘redemption’ will appear less and less often. Therefore, via the feedback chain, the outer form will gradually tidy up the inner content. The feeling of guilt will disappear and with it, all its associated problems.